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The Sewage Was Never the Problem

Jun 05, 2026

Years ago I walked into our bathroom and found sewage backing up into the toilet. And then into the tub.

If you have ever seen that, you know it is exactly as bad as it sounds.

Here is what we did not do. We did not stand there scooping it out of the tub while everyone kept flushing the toilets like nothing was wrong. That would have been insanity. You do not manage sewage. You stop, you call someone who knows what they are doing, and you find where it is actually coming from.

So that is what we did. And the plumber traced the whole mess back to one thing. A tree root growing underground in our front yard. It had been there for years. Quiet. Out of sight. Until the day it broke through the sewer line, and everything we could not see finally showed up where we could not ignore it.

I have never forgotten that. Because soul wounds work the exact same way.

The wound sits under the surface. Hidden, growing, gaining strength over years. And then one day it comes up through the floor of your life as something you can finally see. The short fuse. The need to control. The resentment you cannot put down. The same argument on a loop in your marriage.

And most of us spend all our energy scooping. We keep trying to fix the thing on the surface, the behavior, the reaction, the mess, while the root keeps growing underneath.

Last year I built the Fruit to the Root Workbook for the women in our Community, and I want to give it to you for free. It walks you through the whole thing. The fruit chart, the five questions that get you to the root, and the prayers to forgive, renounce the lies, and clean house.

πŸ‘‰ πŸ‘‰ πŸ‘‰ You can grab the FREE workbook here: www.wisewife.co/root

Do not just read this and move on. Print it out. Do the work. This is the kind of thing that changes the next ten years, not just the next ten minutes.

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