Women come to me to heal their marriages – and I love being a part of that. But if I'm being honest, the first thing God wants to heal is not her marriage. It's her.
I know. Fighting words.
That is the last thing you want to hear when you're staring at so much brokenness in your husband. But we are not here to dictate a timeline for someone else's healing. We're here to get honest about ours.
Because you are not a victim. Yes, you may be victimized right now, and that is real. But you still get to choose whether you live as a victim or not.
(Straight Talk: literally twelve minutes ago, I was slipping into feeling like a victim, wanting to give in to those old familiar feelings of offense and bitterness, and I literally sang myself a little impromptu song "I am not a victim! I do not come into agreement with bitterness. Lord, thank you for my victory!" The feelings of bitterness left me immediately.)
Today I want to sail right into a topic that is getting a lot of attention these days: Is my husband a narcissist?
It's an important question, and I want to answer it with both honesty and care. In my nearly 20 years of helping women and hearing their very personal stories – stories they’ve never shared with anyone else – I have seen just how many marriages are dealing with narcissistic behavio...
Imagine standing in front of a raging fire, desperately praying for God to put it out.
You’re crying out to Him. Rebuking the enemy. Declaring Scripture over the flames.
And all the while, you’re tossing another log onto the fire.
Sounds ridiculous, right?
But what if that’s exactly what you’ve been doing in your marriage?
You’re rebuking the spirit of fear, but you’re constantly checking your ...
There was a season in my marriage when some of the people around me were convinced that what I was fighting for was harmful.
They saw the broken trust.The distance.The abandonment.The destructive coping mechanisms.The mess.
And from the outside, I understand why they were concerned.
These were people who genuinely loved me who thought the best thing for me to do was stop fighting for my marriag...
The Wise Wife Letters
A weekly letter for the wife who is standing alone, fighting the right fight, and refusing to let fear run the house.
