Women come to me to heal their marriages β and I love being a part of that. But if I'm being honest, the first thing God wants to heal is not her marriage. It's her.
I know. Fighting words.
That is the last thing you want to hear when you're staring at so much brokenness in your husband. But we are not here to dictate a timeline for someone else's healing. We're here to get honest about ours.
Because you are not a victim. Yes, you may be victimized right now, and that is real. But you still get to choose whether you live as a victim or not.
(Straight Talk: literally twelve minutes ago, I was slipping into feeling like a victim, wanting to give in to those old familiar feelings of offense and bitterness, and I literally sang myself a little impromptu song "I am not a victim! I do not come into agreement with bitterness. Lord, thank you for my victory!" The feelings of bitterness left me immediately.)
When the hard moment hits β the text that makes your stomach drop, the comment that lands like a jab, the decision you have to make about how to respond β what's running through your head?
For most of us, it's some version of: What do I deserve here? What does he deserve? What will protect me? What will make him finally see?
I've spent nearly twenty years walking with women through the hardest ...
About ten years ago, Tim and I were out celebrating our anniversary and he suggested that we go back down memory lane and make a list of what we've done for each of our anniversaries up to that point. We racked our brains (I think it was already year 15 by this point!) and years later, we still add to that list on every anniversary.
Each year, we mark down the city we celebrated in, where we ma...
Years ago I walked into our bathroom and found sewage backing up into the toilet. And then into the tub.
If you have ever seen that, you know it is exactly as bad as it sounds.
Here is what we did not do. We did not stand there scooping it out of the tub while everyone kept flushing the toilets like nothing was wrong. That would have been insanity. You do not manage sewage. You stop, you call s...
The Wise Wife Letters
A weekly letter for the wife who is standing alone, fighting the right fight, and refusing to let fear run the house.
