The Most Important Question To Ask Before You React

When the hard moment hits — the text that makes your stomach drop, the comment that lands like a jab, the decision you have to make about how to respond — what's running through your head?

For most of us, it's some version of: What do I deserve here? What does he deserve? What will protect me? What will make him finally see?

I've spent nearly twenty years walking with women through the hardest seasons of their marriages, and I've watched all of us reach for those questions. They feel like wisdom. They feel like self-respect.

But this week on the podcast, I unpacked a verse that gave me a completely different question to ask — and I want to share it with you today, because it has become the framework I run every hard decision through.

She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs at the days to come.
Proverbs 31:25

To help you see this in action, I'm going to share a story of a hard moment during my separation where I got to exercise what "strength and dignity" really looks and feels like.