Imagine standing in front of a raging fire, desperately praying for God to put it out.
You’re crying out to Him. Rebuking the enemy. Declaring Scripture over the flames.
And all the while, you’re tossing another log onto the fire.
Sounds ridiculous, right?
But what if that’s exactly what you’ve been doing in your marriage?
You’re rebuking the spirit of fear, but you’re constantly checking your husband's location, scrolling through the other woman’s social media, and imagining every possible worst-case scenario.
You’re praying for peace, but you keep engaging in arguments that produce nothing but more chaos.
You’re trying to cast something out that you keep setting a place for.
There was a season in my marriage when some of the people around me were convinced that what I was fighting for was harmful.
They saw the broken trust.The distance.The abandonment.The destructive coping mechanisms.The mess.
And from the outside, I understand why they were concerned.
These were people who genuinely loved me who thought the best thing for me to do was stop fighting for my marriag...
When the hard moment hits — the text that makes your stomach drop, the comment that lands like a jab, the decision you have to make about how to respond — what's running through your head?
For most of us, it's some version of: What do I deserve here? What does he deserve? What will protect me? What will make him finally see?
I've spent nearly twenty years walking with women through the hardest ...
About ten years ago, Tim and I were out celebrating our anniversary and he suggested that we go back down memory lane and make a list of what we've done for each of our anniversaries up to that point. We racked our brains (I think it was already year 15 by this point!) and years later, we still add to that list on every anniversary.
Each year, we mark down the city we celebrated in, where we ma...
The Wise Wife Letters
A weekly letter for the wife who is standing alone, fighting the right fight, and refusing to let fear run the house.
