There was a season in my marriage where I could not find one good thing to say about my husband.
Not one.
I am not exaggerating. I had mentally catalogued every failure, every disappointment, every thing he had done wrong, and that list had become the lens I looked through every single day.
When he was kind, I assumed a motive. When he was quiet, I assumed the worst. When he seemed to try to bridge the chasm between us, I was indifferent. Because my hurt had already decided the verdict.
When the hard moment hits β the text that makes your stomach drop, the comment that lands like a jab, the decision you have to make about how to respond β what's running through your head?
For most of us, it's some version of: What do I deserve here? What does he deserve? What will protect me? What will make him finally see?
I've spent nearly twenty years walking with women through the hardest ...
About ten years ago, Tim and I were out celebrating our anniversary and he suggested that we go back down memory lane and make a list of what we've done for each of our anniversaries up to that point. We racked our brains (I think it was already year 15 by this point!) and years later, we still add to that list on every anniversary.
Each year, we mark down the city we celebrated in, where we ma...
Women come to me to heal their marriages β and I love being a part of that. But if I'm being honest, the first thing God wants to heal is not her marriage. It's her.
I know. Fighting words.
That is the last thing you want to hear when you're staring at so much brokenness in your husband. But we are not here to dictate a timeline for someone else's healing. We're here to get honest about ours.
B...
The Wise Wife Letters
A weekly letter for the wife who is standing alone, fighting the right fight, and refusing to let fear run the house.
