E39 The Single Strategy that Saved My Marriage
You've been praying, you've been showing up, you've been doing what everyone told you was the right thing. And your marriage is still getting worse.
There are 2 types of prodigal spirits that drive relationship breakdown: rejection and dominance. They attract their opposite, and they feed off each other. When the marriage starts to strain, a wife naturally reaches for the strategy that would work on her own spirit. Grace poured on a dominant husband feeds his control. Pressure applied to a rejection-driven husband pushes him deeper into hiding. That is why you can give everything you have and still watch things get worse.
In this episode, I walk you through both spirits: how each one thinks, how it behaves in a marriage, and how to discern which one is driving your husband's behavior (and which one is at work in you). I share the story of a wife whose 20 years of peacekeeping fed her husband's coercive control, and my own story as a former dominant spirit whose breakthrough started when finally faced with consequences. We go to Adam and Eve, Ahab and Jezebel, and 1 Peter 3:1-2 to see what pure and reverent behavior actually requires.
Resources mentioned:
- Two Types of Prodigals (course). Currently includes 30 days of access to the course support circle, live Q&A group coaching with Natasha. https://www.wisewife.co/course-two-types-prodigals
- The Wise Wife Blueprint (book), where Natasha tells her full story. wisewifeblueprint.com
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