E34 My Marriage Stand Part 2

My Marriage Stand: Part 2 — What God Did With the Wreckage

He moved out. I was at the house with the boys. And by God's grace, I did not lose my mind.

That surprised me more than anything, because nothing about how I'd been living had prepared me for dignified separation. There was not a single fleshly reason I should have held it together when he was packing that car, but I did.

What followed was the hardest year of my life. Tim was gone, done, and not shy about saying he was never coming back. Meanwhile, the Holy Spirit took full advantage of the opening. Rotten layer after rotten layer, every part of my wretchedness exposed. This is Part 2 of my full marriage restoration story, and I'm telling you exactly how that year gutted me and what God asked me to do with it.

Key Takeaways

The first key to saving my marriage was that I stopped looking at his wretchedness. Tim was doing what Tim was doing that year, and it was bad. What I had to do was stop staring at it. That is not the same as excusing it or pretending it isn't real, but you cannot change yourself and obsess over him at the same time. Looking at yourself with truth, not condemnation, is where the actual work starts.

Obedience feels like freedom when you step into it. God convicted me to quit my job. Not to perform change for Tim, not to make myself look better. He showed me I had put my career on an altar and sacrificed my marriage, my children, and my soul on it. Quitting was obedience, and the moment I stepped into it, I tasted freedom I had never felt before. Take one idol down and God shows you the next one.

Spiritual warfare became my education that year. I had never heard of it before. Daniel chapter 10 was my first real encounter with the reality of spiritual battle, a literal war in the heavenly realm, an angel warring the Prince of Persia for 21 days. I was 26 years old with no grid for any of it.

That was the beginning of everything I now teach about warring in the spirit.

Resources

Wise Wife Conference 2026 — Atlanta https://www.wisewife.co/wise-wife-conference-2026

Wise Wife Co Community https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp

The Wise Wife Letters — Weekly Newsletter https://www.wisewife.co/newsletters/the-wise-wife-letters/

This is Part 2/3.   Part 3 is coming soon