S03.23 When Marriage Advice Sounds Biblical But is Stealing Your Breakthrough
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[00:00:00] You are a danger to no one but yourself and those you love if you are in disobedience.
You see, so many Christians have a stubborn resistance to truth while demanding God's blessing. And that's covenantal hypocrisy, right? You're asking God to do something for you, but you're not willing to do what he's asked of you, So we are in a spiritual battle. If you are in any type of marital breakdown, it's a spiritual battle. And spiritual battles require spiritual weapons, okay? Techniques of the flesh.
Even well-intended ones do not carry spiritual authority on their own.
You're fighting a spiritual battle, you better be sure that the sword you're picking up has spiritual weight to it.
for those of you who are new, [00:01:00] welcome to the Wise Wife . , I'm just excited to have another layer of being able to connect with you guys. , The hunger that you have, , just in, as I see the numbers of people listening to the podcast and, , just the, all the messages and like when, when's the next episode.
And, it's just, it's incredible. It also is very humbling for me. , And it shows me just how much hurt there is in marriage. And I, I am just praying that this year in 2026. , You can come along this journey with me and going deeper in how we can see more and more breakthrough in your marriage, in your life, in your heart, and with the Lord.
Okay, so today's episode is, it, it's, it's gonna be a little hot. Let's just kick it off right now 'cause we're gonna talk about obedience, but it's a fiery one and I figured what better one to go live in video, uh, [00:02:00] than this one.
So let's start. Spotify wrapped for creators. Sent me an email recently telling me the stats of my top listeners on that platform, and it had some surprising revelations. Okay. For starters. Um, okay. It tells me like your top five albums, books, podcasts, that people who listen to my podcast, this is what they're consuming.
Right. And at first, nothing too surprising. Number one artist for 2025 for most of you is Forrest Frank. Me Too. Awesome. So thankful for that guy and pray for him and his family. But in the book category, I was also excited to see one of my favorites that I recommend all the time, the Bait of Satan by John Bevere.
Such a great book for those who feel offended. If you're struggling to forgive someone who's wronged you, highly recommend. But what surprised me was the [00:03:00] level of compromise I saw in the top five books, podcasts, and music that my average podcast listener is putting in their brains in the top five books you.
You all like to read was a psychological thriller rooted in witchcraft. Not even gonna bother saying the title here 'cause it's garbage. Uh, and then in the music category, my podcast listeners, number four, most listened to artist was Taylor Swift. Oh my gosh. Here we go. Here we go. She said it. Okay. Sadly, experienced would tell me that there are likely Swifties listening here that are just so demonized and so entrenched in their bondage that they're gonna turn my podcast off right now and immediately go and unfollow me because I even had the audacity to say something about Taylor Swift that wasn't worship.
Okay, bye bye, because I can't help you. But for those of you that are on the fence. You know God's done a work in you [00:04:00] and you are open to correction. Please hear me. Do you want your marriage healed or do you want your pop songs? I know I already hear the words. Oh, she's a legalist. Oh, she's a fundamentalist.
Or she's just whatever you wanna call me. I'm gonna call it what it is. Wisdom. You see obedience is a funny thing. And while I will flat out say that Taylor Swift's music or reading books that pop popularize murder and death, I'm gonna openly say that is a portal to the demonic. Even if it wasn't though, even if it wasn't, my point would still stand.
And the point is this, if what you're consuming doesn't line up with scripture, it needs to be yellow flagged. Something that should be tested in your spirit, and if your heart is telling you that, maybe it's time to stop [00:05:00] listening to that kind of music or stop reading that kind of book. I was gonna say trash.
Trash. And you don't obey that whisper in your spirit. Then the demonic portals are now opened because you were disobedient, not because that music or that book was sinful. That's a total separate issue because now it's no longer even about the music or the book or whatever. It's actually about your heart.
And your disobedience. I have been guilty of this. Okay, so I'm speaking from experience, but now that disobedience is even larger, gateway for the enemy to access you, it's an even larger legal right for the demonic realm to put their stake in the ground. I am going to walk through why obedience is so important, but I need to say that if you thought I came out hot about Taylor Swift and thriller novels later on in this episode, I'm gonna come out so hot that I had to consult my legal team.
Okay? Um, because stay tuned [00:06:00] for the top five podcasts that y'all listen to and my thoughts on how it could be your top podcast that is sabotaging your ability to get breakthrough in your marriage. Yes, it could be in your list. The Bible is so clear. Our prayers are hindered by disobedience. Isaiah 59 verses one, two says, behold the Lord's hand is not shortened, that it cannot save, nor his ear heavy, that it cannot hear.
But your iniquities have separated you from your God and your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hear. Psalm 66 18. If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear. Proverbs 28, 9, 1 who turns away his ear from hearing the law. Even his prayer is an abomination. That is, go do a word study on that.
So sin, [00:07:00] transgression, and iniquity. All those are different, which is a whole other podcast, but all of those keep us from hearing the Lord and from his hand taking action. In our situation, it strips us of the ability to be spiritually dangerous. You are a danger to no one but yourself and those you love if you are in disobedience.
And yet, how does this work? If the Bible says, God hears the cries of the broken hearted, right? Psalm 34 18, the Lord is close to the broken hearted. And saves those who are crushed in spirit. Ha ha. Here we go. Classic example of modern day self-help sermons, which just wanna tickle your ears and tell you what you wanna hear, as if God's compassion and mercy overrides every other aspect of his personality.
No, let's look at the entire portion of scripture, because directly before this in verse 17, it says. The [00:08:00] righteous cry out and the Lord hears them. He delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saved sos who are crushed in spirit. Okay? It's. The righteous cry out. So God is near to the broken hearted.
Yes. And he rescues those who are crushed. But that scripture, it's defining those as the righteous. The righteous cry out and the Lord hears them. So what is righteousness? Because here's the problem that I do face with a lot of women. And I am gonna circle back to this later in the episode, but I have had too many wise wives get so focused on righteous living that they stay in very toxic, abusive marriages.
And that is not what. I am saying here because that is a not understanding truth. That's someone who doesn't understand scripture and who has had scripture weaponized against them or against themselves. Okay, [00:09:00] so let's talk about what is righteousness, and we're gonna get back to that point later on. But what is righteousness?
It's not perfection. It can't be because many sinful people were counted as righteous in the Bible. Right Abraham lot, David, some of the people who were named as righteous and yet had much sin in their lives. So let's break down what makes them righteous. So this is based on scripture, not my opinions, and we can use this as a model, right?
Abraham, we see in Genesis 15, six and he believed in the Lord and he accounted it to him for righteousness. Abraham's sin was clearly recorded for us, right? Such as the fear driven lies he gave about his wife not being his wife, not once but twice, and of course, taking Hagar to produce an heir because he was impatient with God's promise.
Taking too long. Whew. We've all been there, but yet Abraham's righteousness was credited by faith. Right. It says, and he believed in the [00:10:00] Lord not earned by his works. And Paul builds the gospel on this verse in Romans four. Okay, so of course we have then the most famous example, David, the man after God's own heart in Psalm 32, 2.
Blessed is the one who sinned. The Lord does not count against them. And in whose spirit is no deceit. David sinned, grievously, I mean mostly through the adultery with Bathsheba, and then the murder of her husband, Uriah. Those are the two big examples we have. But here's the thing, he also repented deeply.
His example shows us that righteousness is preserved through repentance, not perfection. Okay. Repentance and correction. Uh, repentance means to truly turn away from. Okay. Another example of this is lot. Uh, a man who is counted as righteous. Second Peter two, seven through eight, that righteous man, dwelling among them, tormented his righteous soul lot was a piece of [00:11:00] work.
He chose Sodom as his land purely for material gain, right? So he was using greed over logic or over, I don't know. Um, generosity, right? He was willing to offer his daughters as a sacrifice to protect his guests from the men pounding on the door for his guests. I'm gonna try and keep it g-rated here. Um, you know, showing total moral compromise under pressure, right?
His drunkenness led to a total abdication of his leadership and his daughter's having incestuous relationships with him. I mean, the guy is a train wreck, okay? And he's called righteous. Okay, well, two, two. Peter two, seven through eight still calls lot righteous showing that righteousness can coexist with deep failure and even confusion, but not without cost, right?
There's a cost so we can be imperfect and still righteous, but there's always a cost to our sin. And don't you understand this is the reason for God's call to righteousness other than [00:12:00] his utmost perfection. And we are all called to, to be like him 'cause we're made in his image. But his, his desire for righteousness is because it is actually what is best for us.
Not because he's a task master or some kind of tyrannical God, but because he knows the cost of your sin. Right. He created the law of reaping and sowing, and whether you love him or not, you're subject to that law. We are all subject to that law. So it's not about living like little robots who follow blindly.
Every little rule we can possibly find. Take a seat, legalist, but rather it's about having so much trust in him as a good father, that I want to obey him because I so deeply believe that whatever he has for me is for my good. So why would I want to venture off? Why would I want to align myself with the wickedness around me?
Lot living in hell bent. Sodom [00:13:00] was morally compromised and conflicted. Yet scripture still calls him righteous because he did not align his heart with the wickedness around him. And when I see these things in some of your top five consumptions, because let's be clear, that's what this is. We're consuming books, we're consuming music, we're consuming podcasts.
Okay. Our moms, were right all along, y'all garbage in, garbage out. And the Bible calls us to protect our hearts and we, we have to heed that call because from out of the heart, the mouth speaks and my mouth can get me into a lot of trouble. Uh, so the issue is not about perfection and being some kind of legalist that does everything black and white, right and wrong.
It's. It's, this is not about what I would call performative Christianity. Okay. That is, I, I have, I will [00:14:00] shout from the rooftops that I lived so many years in performative Christianity. The only reason that I was following the rules of Christianity was because it was a performance and it, and it's not because.
I wanted that. I mean, my heart loved the Lord, but I lacked knowledge. I did not know how to truly surrender to him as Lord, not just as savior. So like I loved him as my savior, but that did not have me laying anything down because I wasn't serving him as my Lord. I was just serving him as my savior. And when I came into a realization that I needed both Lord and Savior, it changed everything for me.
No longer was I having to struggle with sin, because if you're in performative Christianity, the only reason you have not to sin is, because it looks bad. But what [00:15:00] about the sins that are hidden that no one can see? Well, now you've got no foundation or no reason. But if the Lord is your Lord and not just your savior, then even in the darkest places where no one sees, even in your own mind, you will want to surrender to him.
You'll want to do right by him because now it's not just, oh, you're saving me to take me to heaven and I'm just gonna perform so that I can get to heaven. Now it's like, no, I worship you as my Lord. Like tell me what you want me to put down and I'll put it down. Okay, so this is not performative Christianity.
This is about wanting so badly to be aligned with God that I won't let anything get in the way of it. This is about the fear of the Lord, okay? Not in the legalistic view of fear, which a lot of you grew up with, that God is out there like ready to punish you if you make a single mistake. But I'm talking about a reverent fear [00:16:00] for the Lord, as in God, you are so holy.
And I am so simple. It is by your grace that you even tolerate me. The least I could do is give you my day-to-day choices. If, if this thing I'm doing isn't serving you, no matter what it is, I lay it down. If there's anything in my life that is pointing me anywhere but to you, I don't want it, take it away from me.
You see, so many Christians have a stubborn resistance to truth while demanding God's blessing. And that's covenantal hypocrisy, right? You're asking God to do something for you, but you're not willing to do what he's asked of you, right? So he's not looking for perfection. He's looking for willingness and stubbornly saying, well, I don't care what anyone says, this music is fine.
Um, or I don't live in the old law so I can read whatever I wanna read. Even when that music or that book clearly defies the [00:17:00] words of God. It's stubborn defiance. It's straight disobedience, and it's opening you up to living with less spiritual authority and including attacks. Okay, so prayer is hindered not by imperfection, but by willful disobedience.
Unrepented sin, wrong motives, broken relational order, 'cause God will not empower what contradicts his covenant. . So I told you I was gonna get heated before the episode was out, and here it is. Okay. Number three podcast that y'all are listening to is Candace Owens. And I'm not even as fired up about that.
You think I'm coming for her, but I'm not coming for her. Just wait till we get to the number one spot. But, but if you can listen to like, angry, vindictive, hateful episodes for like an hour and a half and, and you come away feeling great, have at her. Like if, if your spirit actually feels like if the fruit of the spirit is bubbling [00:18:00] up and out of you after listening to an hour of Candace Owens.
I guess you're just a, I don't know a better Christian than me, but I'll tell you what, every Christian I know whose spirit felt, who has felt that they felt that shift in, in, in her episodes. And I won't, I'm not gonna say when, I'm not even gonna go into this. I'm just gonna say you felt it and you knew it went from, oh, this is fine to, like, this makes me feel dirty when I listen to it.
Okay. So. If that's, if you don't feel that when you're listening to it, I just think you need to get right with God because you need some more Holy Spirit discernment in your life. Um, because if, even if it's my podcast, if you're not walking away from whatever you've consumed, read, listened to, whatever, if you're not walking away feeling on fire for what God wants to do in your life.
Why are you wasting your time on that? Really? Why? Like you have literal limited time. [00:19:00] You don't know how much time you have. Why waste it on something that leaves you at a net negative or even neutral, right? Like take. Hold of the time you have and use it wisely. So I'm not even coming for Candace Owens, although everyone's been asking me.
Everyone wants to know. All my wise wives have been asking me. A lot of them already knew it. They already felt it. 'cause they're trained up. They're wise wives, they're full of the spirit. They understand they're, they're wise. They're, they're getting fed every week with truth. Um, they didn't really need anything, but maybe a, just a confirmation of what they'd already been feeling in their spirit.
But here's where I'm getting all fired up and now my wisers know this. But, um. Number one podcast y'all are listening to other than mine is The Empowered Wife Podcast with Laura Doyle. You know you played the game too. Truth and a lie. You ever played that in like a corporate icebreaker or whatever? Uh, you know, you, you give three statements. Two are true, one is a lie and people have to guess which one [00:20:00] is the lie. And I learned early on in this game, uh, years ago, that the best way to play this game at the best chance of winning is to actually pick three truths.
And then slightly turn one into a lie. So I will take three crazy truths about my life and I'll just twist one. So it's like I broke nine bones growing up when really it was like 11 or 13 or something. Right? So it's like. Just a little twist and it makes it incredibly difficult for people to sniff out which one is the lie because they're all pretty close to true or true.
Okay. This is how the devil works, okay? I teach this concept in my Wise Wife mentorship program, and every one of us knows it. You can talk to any wise wife, and they have, they'll say It's too truth and a lie because. You will encounter this. Now that I've taught you this, you're going [00:21:00] to encounter this in many things in the world.
The devil loves two truths and a lie. He comes at Eve with what? Two truths and a lie, right? He came at her with did God really say not to eat the fruit? And she said, well, we can eat all the fruit, but just not from this one tree.
Okay. So now he says, oh, well he just doesn't want you to, to be like him. Well, the tree was the, , the tree of good and evil, right? So. He was actually not lying. It's true that them eating from that was going to open their eyes to things that would make them more like God and they couldn't handle it.
It brought death. They couldn't handle that. Right. And so the devil loves to come at you with just sort of a almost truth. That it's really believable. Just like when I'm playing the game, two truths and a lie. It's, it's just like [00:22:00] believable, but it's like just a little bit off. And that's how the devil comes at you.
You know, he, he's gonna come at you with just enough truth and a little bit of a lie. So here's my problem with the Empowered Wife and the whole Laura Doyle concept.
I've had many women come to me through, uh, after, after going through Laura Doyle, or maybe while they are also plugged into that mentorship, they'll come into mine. Um, and so I have a lot of experience with dealing with the aftermath of this training. Um, but let's just, I'm just gonna let you go through.
I'm gonna just, just gonna read some quotes . Because here's the thing about two truths and a lie. If you just like listen or read her things or you plug in, it all sounds pretty good, it sounds very Christian-like, but I'm going to isolate [00:23:00] some things and let you decide what is actually true and what is actually not true.
Okay? Um, when it comes to what is Christian and what is Christ like. Okay, so some of the quotes, uh, I, and this took me all of five minutes, okay. To find, , create the gratifying, exhilarating, addicting experience of being loved every day just for being yourself. Okay. A happy marriage is the result of a woman learning certain skills that when practiced, result in her feeling desired, cherished, and adored by her husband every day for the rest of their lives.
Wow. Okay. Um, in her book, things will get as good as you can stand. There's a, a part of it that she stands on. The principle of it is better to receive than to give end quote. Well, acts 2035 would've something to say about that. Because it's more blessed to give than to receive. Right? So while [00:24:00] on the surface I agree with much of what her, her concepts teach, and even her six intimacy skills, things like relinquish control, respecting your husband.
Okay, that sounds all great and nice. The Bible tells us though, that it's not really about the words or the actions so much as it is about the heart motivation. So any principle, no matter how sound, when practiced with the wrong motivation or apart from truth, can easily shift from being a way to bless your husband into manipulating your husband.
And when that happens, it may look like peace on the outside. But I promise you it comes at a devastating internal cost to the woman, right, the erosion of her dignity, her peace, her ability to name what is true and factual. And scripture is really clear here. There is no strength in denial. You cannot forgive what you won't admit.
Say it again. You cannot forgive what you won't admit. And in my [00:25:00] experience. I have too many Laura Doyle flunkies, as I lovingly call them, who felt pressure to suppress their voice, minimize their reality, or spiritually bypass what was actually happening in their marriage, in the name of doing the skills correctly.
And, and silence does not bring freedom. Avoidance does not bring healing and no relational framework. Not mine, not Laura Doyle's. Nobody's, apart from God's truth, can carry the weight of what some of you are enduring, you see? Whereas Laura ends her testimonial podcast with statements like, and these are direct quotes, just from her last three.
I just pulled them out. I wanna congratulate you and give you my Best Wife award, okay? I think it's a great accomplishment that you fixed your family. I can't think of anything that I admire more than what you've accomplished with your family. These are the ends of her sharing testimonial podcasts. I end my testimonials with [00:26:00] prayer and gratitude for all God has done.
I mean, that's just, that's just me. Because here's the heart of the issue. When a program centers personal happiness or behavioral technique, or self mastery as the primary source of peace or hope, especially when someone is in crisis, it places a burden on you that was never meant for you to carry, okay?
Without God. If a woman. We to fully name the reality of what she's facing. No method, no set of skills is gonna be sufficient to promise change, which is why it requires manipulation and it requires sacrificing of one's naming the truth, right? So that hope can only come from Jesus. Some of the things that my wise wives are dealing with.
There's no program, there is no framework. I promise you there is nothing out [00:27:00] there in the world that could change their situation. Do I use practical, worldly things? Yes. I teach personality profiling. I teach, um, obviously different like. The laws of reaping and sowing, the laws of generosity, the law of forgiveness.
Okay, these are spiritual laws, but they're still things that we do. In the practical, yes, absolutely, but true healing does not come from any of those things. And I could have someone do all those things perfectly, and if God is not in it, it will not produce good fruit. Okay, so true healing begins with him first in our individual heart and then in the marriage.
Any teaching that subtly points women. Or not so subtly to their own abilities as the source of transformation. Even when it's wrapped in familiar, Christian language deserves careful discernment. Scripture does not call us to self worship or to the [00:28:00] idolatry of my happiness, my being cherished. My being worshiped.
Listen, listen, some of y'all are in the place you're in because your husband did worship you. That's all he did. He, it's what I call the feminine God complex. It's where men, , it's usually from a mother wound and they only know how to connect with God. Or what should be the place where they connect with God through women.
And so they look always for a woman to fill the void that God should be in. And I call it the feminine God complex. And what it means is that whatever woman they put their sights on, she becomes their God. And it is a. Absolutely exhausting place to be. It. I've lived it out. It was part of our demise and it is not possible.
And what I worry about in some of these other standing fight for your marriage type protocols is that what they're actually doing is they're, [00:29:00] they're positioning you into just be such a perfect wife. That he'll have no choice but to come back to you. Well, guess what? You're not gonna be able to stay perfect.
And, and, and you know what? You can sacrifice yourself. You can sacrifice your dignity. You can sacrifice your strength over and over again, but eventually you cannot do it forever. And then what? And then what, what's your restoration founded on? It's founded on lies. It's founded on manipulation. And it doesn't sustain.
So rather I teach women how to get to the place where it's a full surrender to what Jesus calls you to. Does he call you to stand? Great, let's stand. Does he call you to divorce because you're in an abusive marriage with a depraved, reprobate mind husband? Then let me help you get through that so that your heart maintain is, is soft through everything or are you called?
It's a [00:30:00] singleness. Okay, let's walk through that. But whatever you're called to, it's not my will lord, but yours be done. Okay? So we are in a spiritual battle. If you are in any type of marital breakdown, it's a spiritual battle. And spiritual battles require spiritual weapons, okay? Techniques of the flesh.
Even well-intended ones do not carry spiritual authority on their own. God does not mingle with idols, okay? He does not share his glory with methods that replace dependence on him. If you can just apply these skills and everything's gonna be great, and then you know, let's just congratulate you for being so amazing.
You're so awesome. You did it. Look at you. You're so incredible. Worship, worship, worship, worship. That is exhausting. It's not sustainable and it takes God off the throne. So if you are going to place [00:31:00] yourself under the covering of another mentor, okay, whether it be me or Laura or any of the others that are out there, I need you to just really sit and think.
Is that mentor pointing you to Jesus Christ alone, not to herself, not to a system, not to your own ability to manage outcomes because all of that will eventually collapse under the weight that it you were never meant to bear. Most of what Laura Doyle teaches, including the six intimacy skills.
If done with the wrong intentions, all of those things are sin. If done with a heart that is just looking to manipulate a situation or manufacture peace, you're no longer blessing your [00:32:00] husband. You're manipulating your husband, there is no strength or dignity in. Molding yourself to be somebody you are not called to be because you're afraid of being your true self. What I teach women to do is, no, we're going to name what is right, because you cannot forgive what you won't admit.
We're gonna name it. And then we're gonna surrender it to the Lord and we're gonna find ways of addressing what is wrong in you. Maybe what your husband's brokenness then created in your brokenness, what maybe your brokenness fed into his brokenness. We're gonna get to all that. Yes. But it's not gonna be with the heart motivation and the soul motivator of, I need to stop this pain.
'cause if that's your main motivator, you're not gonna make it. You are not gonna make it. And if you do make it, it's gonna be very manipulative. Your [00:33:00] motivator has to be obedience to Christ, that that can be the only reason. That can be the only reason. So it is the one and only Jesus Christ who will bring you the healing you need and then heal your marriage. And what gets me so fired up is that Laura is preaching a secular message. That you and your abilities are the source of your happiness. She's a wolf in sheep's clothing because she couches it in such a way that it attracts Christian women.
And if it weren't for that, honestly, if it weren't for that, I got no bones to pick. Okay? People can save marriages any which way they want, but don't come after my church. Don't come after my church with. What is not scripturally sound, so be very careful that you are not partnering with self worship
Even [00:34:00] if someone uses a thin veneer of Christian values to package their message, if at the core they are centered on anything, but not my will Lord, but yours be done, you're on a sinking ship. And if you're fighting a spiritual battle, you better be sure that the sword you're picking up has spiritual weight to it.
Because if it's carnal, if you're only using weapons of the flesh, you're not using the full authority that you have as a Christian. And like I said, God, don't mingle with idols. I mean, he just does not mingle. So if you're gonna put yourself. Under a mentorship, please make sure that person is pointing you to Jesus and only Jesus, not quasi Jesus, not like Jesus ish, not sort of Jesus values.
And please don't tell me. Well, it's good. Just don't throw the baby out with [00:35:00] the bath water. How's that working for you? Really, truly, is it making you. More like Christ or is it just making you more of a performative Christian? So that's my hot takes on the stuff you guys are watching and listening to. Um, I know it's not all of you, that's just, there's just the top five of the average, you know, of all the people listening through Spotify.
But, um, it's only one of the platforms, but I just felt that it was, it's a quite large, um, segment of people. And so if it's happening there, it's likely happening over on Apple Podcasts and on the other platforms. So. I felt like it needed to be addressed, and I'm telling you guys, obedience unlocks everything.
Problem is, and I have lived this, okay, where your heart wants to be obedient, but you just can't muster it up inside of you. [00:36:00] That could be a sign of performative Christianity where, you know, am I truly sold out to the Lord? Is he really my Lord or is he just my savior? Okay, and, and, and, and on the flip side, some of y'all who grew up in legalistic backgrounds, you are very much all about the Lord.
It's the Lord. He is your Lord, but you don't even know Savior. There's no grace. There's no grace. So you know him as all the rules and you're really good at following all the rules and you're really good at quoting scripture and you know the Bible back and forth 'cause he was your Lord from childhood.
But do you know him as your savior who wants to actually receive you? Okay. Um, so I hope this helps and I hope that. As we go into 2026, my prayer is that you'll be able to find that surrender based on just a total, I'm [00:37:00] all in God. I am all in. What is it that you want of me? Take anything else that is not of you away because that is going to unlock so much for you.
Will it unlock restoration? Maybe I see that all the time. Would it unlock? Breakthrough in your own personal life. Absolutely. Like it unlocks everything and it's, it's a necessary part of the Christian walk and the consecration journey. Let's pray. Lord, I just thank you that you are here to love us through it and that we can surrender even our. Our lack of faith, even our lack of knowledge, that we can come to you and say, Lord, help me heal my unbelief, heal the areas that I haven't surrendered to you.
Help me to surrender more to you. So God, I pray that any woman who is convicted by these words would come to you on their, on her knees and to just surrender it to you and. Ask for help, that it doesn't have to be something she musters up on her own, but [00:38:00] instead it's something that she can just give to you and you will be there to hold her and walk her through it.
Thank you, God. Thank you, Jesus. We pray and release over every woman here. A blessing and a fresh blessing of courage and strength and dignity. That she would walk boldly through every part of her circumstances and situation with you at the focus you at the forefront, that she is surrendered to you doing the things that are so difficult because of you and because of who you call her to be, not because of some need to perform.
We surrender that God. Pen for times where we have performed, where we have done things because we just thought it was the right thing to do, but we didn't feel it in our heart. God, when we feel something in our heart, it changes everything about how we speak. It changes everything about how we act. And Lord, that's what we want.
We wanna be surrendered to you. We pray now that every one of us would be [00:39:00] repentant for the things that we have held above you. God forgive us. Forgive us for idolatry. Forgive us for idolizing marriage. Forgive us for idolizing our husbands. Forgive us for idolizing happiness. If there is anyone who has been indoctrinated by that God, I release them now in Jesus' name.
Every spirit of idolatry to come off of them. Now in the name of Jesus, as they have repented for these things, from every spirit of idolatry, and it would be broken off of their mind. The scales would drop now and they would see with clarity and wisdom, the areas where you have been calling them and that they would step boldly into obedience now in Jesus' name.
Thank you Lord. Amen.
